COVID-19: My wife was gone… and no one knew for how long

When Juergen Ditz’s wife Catherine was diagnosed with the novel coronavirus, his whole world was turned upside down. She was put into isolation in hospital, while he and their two young daughters, aged just 4 months and 21 months, had to quarantine. Things took a turn for the worse when their frozen breast milk supply ran out, and the baby suffered a severe reaction to formula. Here he tells his story:

By Juergen Ditz, Guest Writer

 

The Lead Up

When Catherine told me she wasn’t feeling well I didn’t think too much of it. I told her to relax and just take it easy. She had a fever and just felt crap.  The new coronavirus crossed our minds but we thought it was probably flu, or perhaps fatigue from travel as we had just got back from Bali and had a tough journey back with two very young kids.

The next day things were no better, she had pain in her legs and the fever was back. Our minds tossed things over: Could it be flu? What about dengue? There have been a lot of cases in Bali this year.

Please don’t let it be COVID-19

She decided to isolate herself in the guest bed room, I brought her food and drinks in exchange for pumped breast milk. It was a sign of things to come.

The next morning suddenly she felt a lot better. No more fever, no more pain. We got our hopes up that it was just a little bug. But by 4pm she was back in the guest room feeling terrible and by 7pm she was finding it harder to breathe.

She felt like a stack of bricks was on her chest 

I called the Hong Kong health authority hotline and explained the situation but they said to call 999.  The ambulance came within 15 minutes. I gave her a kiss on the cheek and promised her I’d keep the kids safe.

My wife was gone… and no one knew for how long.

The Bomb 

Catherine had x-rays which indicated she had the novel coronavirus but needed blood and swab tests to confirm the results. She was put in isolation while awaiting the results.

Neither of us slept.

Back at home, so many things were going through my mind. If she was positive, what would it mean for us.  How long would our two young children – just 4 months and 21 months – be without their mother, or me without my wife.

And how could we feed our breastfed baby, without breast milk?

At noon, the doctors told her it wasn’t dengue. It’s a strange situation when that news comes as a blow.

I feared the worst… I was right.

That evening Catherine was given a preliminary diagnosis of COVID-19. We still needed the final confirmation, but we knew it was likely to be positive.

I was in tears but I had to stay strong. I called my family and a few friends, and asked for their help. I knew I’d need it over the next few weeks as I quarantined with our children.

Stocktake 

The proposed treatment for Catherine was a two weeks of anti-retrovirals, usually used for HIV cases, plus antibiotics and vitamin C. The doctors were clear she could not breastfeed and we had no idea when she might be discharged.

The news then went from bad to worse.  

I did an inventory of our frozen breast milk stash. I  didn’t know exactly how much our 4-month-old drank since she mostly fed directly from her mummy. So I kept a log to see how much she needed and worked out it was around one litre a day.

Catherine had pumped from the early days, so a quick count of all the bags,  showed we had enough for about nine to ten days. On average patients get out within three weeks, but this virus is unpredictable.

It was not enough milk to get us through till mummy came home.

And even if and when she was discharged, we still didn’t know if she would even be able to breastfeed again.

Looking down the barrel of two plus weeks in quarantine as a single parent, I realised life was going to be different for a bit.

A new routine started to kick in, we slept in, we had long breakfasts, we made pancakes together. There were long naps and long baths. We made the most of rooftop activities as we have a terrace and some swings so that helped, so did short bursts of Peppa Pig.

I did all that with the iPad in tow to keep Catherine involved

I knew seeing the baby would help with her milk production (she was having to pump and dump her milk in hospital, but was holding on to the idea that she would be able to nurse again on day).

So we didn’t just have conversations on FaceTime, no, we tried to have recreate family life – long distance.

 

 

Allergic Reaction

 

As the breast milk was running out I had no choice but to try formula. We’d hoped the baby would breastfeed until at least a year, so to cut it short at four months, was sad.

We bought formula for the “in case of” situations that you think will never happen to you. We never had any intention of using it unless something dire happened to my wife.

But something dire did happen…

I started off with the first bottle after lunch, just in case there was a  reaction I knew it was best to trial it in the day.

The first 50ml went down okay, but then our daughter’s skin started to turn red and some blisters formed on her neck. I knew then that this was an allergy.

I was about to call the ambulance.

But I called our midwife and paediatrician first and they advised using antihistamines, which cleared the rash within two hours.

But looking at the dwindling stash of frozen breast milk, I knew we were in trouble.

We were in quarantine so I couldn’t go in to a doctor or a clinic, or shop around for different formulas in the hope that our baby might not be allergic to one of them.

The hospital wouldn’t allow Catherine to keep the milk she was pumping, and the discussion to have our baby in isolation with my wife wasn’t even entertained by the doctors. This is despite the World Health Organization stating that mothers with COVID-19 that wish to breastfeed, should be supported to do so safely.

 

The Power of Social Media 

 

Once the children were asleep, Catherine and I talked things through. Our choices were limited: either sending the baby to be admitted into a public hospital once I ran out of milk, or to search for donations.

We opted for the latter and while friends of ours gave some bags of milk that would keep us going a few more days, it wasn’t a long term solution.

We needed more breast milk.

My wife posted in Hong Kong Breastfeeding, a Facebook group, and within hours mums across the city started pumping for our baby.

The admins contacted me to check my freezer space, and how much I had left. They told me not to worry.

Milk was on its way!

When the milk arrived, delivered by volunteers and dropped off according to quarantine rules, I was in tears and speechless. There was more than 10 litres of liquid gold, nicely packed, clearly labelled, and well organised.

I couldn’t believe it. In a place that is usually all about money, I saw real community spirit.

The baby took the new milk with no problems and it was as if a huge weight was lifted from all of us.

Then a week later Catherine returned home.

What I Learned

I have always been a hands on dad – having children in my early 40s meant I had already done all the backpacking, the junks, the messy nights partying, and the boozy races in Happy Valley.  In a town where domestic help is affordable and social pressures are high, there are a lot of men who make you wonder if they really want to be dads, or if they just want to have children – these are two totally different things.

I love being a dad so I have spent a lot of time with my daughters since day one. So being a single dad while Catherine was in hospital was – looking back now – not the main issue. It’s not unusual for me to handle the bathing, the changing, the feeding, and the nappies and we had friends and neighbours to help with supplies during quarantine.

The tough bit was that we were quarantined and we couldn’t bring in my mother or sister, or my in-laws to help. We were limited to our space and I couldn’t occupy the girls with adventures outside the house.  Instead I slowed our pace of life right down – long baths and lie-ins, cooking together and playing together.

I split the time up into blocks of five days, and it made the time go a lot easier than if I had thought of it was a 2-3 week stretch. In these tough situations, you quickly realise what you are capable of, and what you can achieve – you have no choice.

Family Reunited

 

 

 

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Hong Kong supports the #Ittasteslikelove campaign to normalise breastfeeding

From international brands and boutique cafes to spas, salons, and doctor’s surgeries – some of Hong Kong’s bests loved establishments are backing the #Ittasteslikelove campaign, taking a stand against discrimination, and empowering breastfeeding mothers.

PHOTO CREDIT: RSP PHOTOGRAPHY 

Here’s what they do, why you should support them, and why they support us:

Cafes, Bars, Restaurants

Maximal Concepts (HK Island)

The grand masters of mixing tradition and innovation, Maximal Concepts are unequivocally supporting the idea that women should be free to nurse however, wherever and whenever they need to.

Why they back the campaign:

“We absolutely support this campaign and want all nursing mothers to feel totally comfortable caring for their children in our restaurants. It’s such an important message to get across, and the stigma definitely needs to change in Hong Kong.” – Malcolm Wood, Global Managing Director

What they do and why you should go:

Brickhouse: the best of Mexican street food in a hip setting, located centrally. This isn’t your traditional spot for mamas with kids in tow, but hey, if these cool kids are backing the campaign, so should everyone.

John Anthony: this 7,000-square-foot ode to sustainability in the restaurant business serves up innovative Cantonese food. With a focus on ensuring how our choices now need to be mindful of the next generation, it makes sense they are backing a campaign to normalise breastfeeding.

Limewood: perfect for lazy beach days, this Repulse Bay gem is beloved by local families and visitors alike. Set beachfront at The Pulse, this is an ideal place for a leisurely lunch, and they won’t bat an eyelid if your boobs are out for breastfeeding.

Mercedes me Store: slap bang on Queen’s Road Central, this one is an easy choice for lunching with fellow parents or just grabbing a quick bite after running errands in Central.

Mott 32: internationally renowned Chinese fare based primarily on Cantonese and Sichuan traditions is what’s on offer here. A great choice if you want a stylish family gathering but still need to nurse.

Stockton: this whisky bar (open from 6pm till late) with its slick cocktails and den-of-iniquity atmosphere might seem an unlikely backer of the campaign, but mamas also have nights off, and when they do, they always remember the folk that backed them when they needed it.

Black Sheep Restaurants (HK Island, TST)

From the classic tastes of post-colonial India and Pakistan to 1950s New York, these guys know how to do concept cuisine right. Inspired by the past but forward-thinking in their delivery, they operate a “family first” approach, and encouraging the normalisation of breastfeeding fits into that.

Why they back the campaign:

“Family is important to us, and everyone who dines with us is an extended member of our family – and that includes babies. We fully support a woman’s choice to breastfeed her baby whenever and wherever she chooses, and this includes all Black Sheep Restaurants venues. We pride ourselves in offering all mothers a safe and welcoming environment.” – Malique Goldin, Director of Guest Experience

What they do and why you should go:

Artemis & Apollo: what’s not to love about the family-friendly atmosphere of this Greek taverna?

BELON: a fusion of classic French bistro and local influences, BELON now boasts a Michelin star. High-end restaurants can be inexplicably difficult about nursing mothers, so it’s excellent to have “safe” special-occasion options.

Burger Circus: all-American diner with booths, jukebox and a menu of cult favourites. Great vibe and kind staff make it a winner for new parents.

Carbone: with Big Apple style, Italian-American food and cool music, this one ticks all the boxes whether you’re with the children or not.

Chôm Chôm: if you’ve travelled through Southeast Asia, you’ll know that people bring kids out in the evenings to dine and people-watch. No reason why you can’t carry on this tradition at this busy Vietnamese kitchen and bar.

Fukuro: this slick Japanese izakaya is an unlikely stop if you’re nursing, but one to bookmark for your return to wild nights out.

Ho Lee Fook: where New York’s Chinatown meets Hong Kong’s cha chaan tengs. With a no-reservations policy and lively atmosphere, this isn’t necessarily somewhere to bring baby, but know that if you need to, they have your back.

Hotal Colombo: this vibrant Sri Lanka eatery makes us think of holidays. Great if you’re in SoHo and need something simple and yummy for an early dinner. If you’re nursing, choose the seats against the wall for extra comfort.

La Vache!: with branches in SoHo and TST, these spacious Parisian steakhouses are the go-to for red meat cravings and addictive fries.

Le Garçon Saigon: classic Vietnamese fare served in a Parisian brasserie-style setting, this is an excellent choice if you feel like being a grown-up after baby-and-me classes.

Le Petit Saigon: this is more grab and go, but if you’re used to breastfeeding in a carrier, make a pit stop here and pick up the best banh mi in town.

Maison Libanaise: evoking 1960s Beirut, this SoHo Middle Eastern spot is a firm favourite, and it’s great that this doesn’t need to change just because you have a family.

Motorino: if you’re after excellent pizza with a great family atmosphere, this is a good choice and well located – one branch is just off the Central–Mid-Levels escalator in SoHo and the others on Wanchai’s trendy Ship Street.

New Punjab Club: this tandoori grill is a fantastic family spot with a lush menu. It also has a Michelin star, so if you’re entertaining foodie visitors and have a bub in tow, this might be the solution.

Osteria Marzia: breastfeeding in public is normal in Italy, so much so that the Pope recently welcomed nursing mothers to the Sistine Chapel. It makes sense that this darling restaurant that offers diners a taste of the coastal cuisine of places such as Amalfi, Puglia and Sardinia should have the same approach.

Soul Food Thai: a neighbourhood Thai kitchen offering authentic Bangkok shophouse dishes with a twist, most of them easy to eat with a babe in arms. A great choice if you want something casual but inviting for dinner.

Stazione Novella: another good option if you’re on the hop and need a quick bite or drink, but as they have high bar stools, it’s probably better to keep your baby in the carrier if you’re planning on breastfeeding.

PizzaExpress 

One of Hong Kong’s comfort-food favourites with locations across the city from Yuen Long to Stanley, and Discovery Bay to Tseung Kwan O, they now offer vegan options, pizza-making parties, and are committed to ensuring that their restaurants are family-friendly from the outset.

Why they back the campaign:

“Family is one of our core values here at PizzaExpress, and it’s our goal to make sure everyone who dines at our restaurants feels loved and supported, especially the mothers. We are a firm believer that mothers should be supported to breastfeed in public without any concern, and it’s our job and privilege to provide such environment.” – Liam Colette, Managing Director International of PizzaExpress

Oolaa 

With options in Wan Chai, Soho, and now Tung Chung, this brand has been popular with urban families for more than a decade. They will also help reheat bottles and baby food, with the view that they are there to help diners feel comfortable.

Why they back the campaign:

“At Oolaa we are proud to be a recognised family restaurant and this is why it has been important for us over 10+ years to welcome families and help mothers feel comfortable if they breastfeed.  The most natural thing is breastfeeding and mothers around the World should be able to feed their babies anytime and anywhere, this is why they will always be welcome.” – Manon Pellis, Events Manager

FRITES (Causeway Bay, Central, Quarry Bay, Wanchai)

Already a favourite with Hong Kong’s parents, FRITES’ restaurants are popular for working lunches or after-office drinks, but they are also great places to bring the kids. The venues have play areas and activities to keep your smalls occupied.

Why they back the campaign:

“We are delighted to be part of the #Ittasteslikelove campaign and fully support mothers breastfeeding in public. No one has the authority to tell a mother where to feed her child; it is a natural process that should be done wherever they please.” – Avia Kafry, FRITES management

MANA! (Central, Sheung Wan, Wanchai)

Bobsy Gaia is the godfather of Hong Kong’s ethical eating scene – whether it’s promoting a plant-based diet or highlighting the need to reduce waste. The third of his MANA! eateries just opened near Wanchai’s Star Street, and he’s committed all of his restaurants to supporting #Ittastteslikelove.

Why they back the campaign:

“MANA! is proud to support the #Ittasteslikelove campaign to normalise breastfeeding. Mothers can relax at MANA! and know they are welcome and can dine or drink hassle free.” – Bobsy Gaia, founder

Beef & Liberty (Central, Stanley, Hong Kong International Airport)

We just love these guys – not just for the excellent food and great events (whether its beach clean-ups or family quiz days), but also because they understand how important it is for the whole community to be involved in driving social change. They were amongst the first to include the plant-based Impossible Burger on their menus and are now leading the way with helping to normalise breastfeeding in F&B.

Why they back the campaign:

“At Beef & Liberty, we completely support the #Ittasteslikelove campaign. We welcome all nursing mothers and hope to provide an atmosphere that is comfortable and relaxed where they can look after their children without being judged or hassled.” – Will Bray, Managing Director, Greater China Restaurant Company

Modern Rich Group (Causeway Bay, Wanchai)

This cool group deliver innovative fusion eats as well as the best of the grill. Diners can rest assured that they will be looked after at either of their eateries, in terms of service, food and, of course, support if you’re nursing.

Why they back the campaign:

“We support breastfeeding as this is such a wonderful thing to give babies. I am a father of two, so I understand the beauty of it. Our restaurants have carefully planned our seating, so mummies can enjoy a more spacious environment when they feed their babies. Meanwhile, if they visit us during lunchtime on weekdays, they can enjoy a custom-made hot mocktail, which is good for their body health!” – Jerry Fung, General Manager, hEat and Le Rêve

What they do and why you should support them:

hEat: there’s something for everyone at this casual Mediterranean grill in Wanchai, so bring the extended family and stay for a while.

Le Rêve: try this French-Japanese fine-dining restaurant in Causeway Bay if you’re keen to impress and relax knowing that even with babe in tow the service will still be faultless and welcoming.

SpiceBox Organics (Kennedy Town, Mid-Levels)

These shops and cafés are stalwarts for Hong Kong Island’s westsiders wanting to pick up freshly made, organic, gluten-free, vegetarian and vegan fare. Dining in is always nice, and they go the extra mile to make parents feel welcome.

Why they back the campaign:

“We support the #Ittasteslikelove campaign to normalise breastfeeding. We want nursing mothers to know they are welcome at all of our stores and cafés. We are happy to offer them a complimentary Organic India caffeine-free tea upon any dine-in or in-store purchase.” – Punam Chopra, founder

DiVino Group (Central, TST, Wanchai)

Lovers of Italian cuisine head to one of these restaurants for fresh ingredients and warm welcomes. These guys have been going for more than 15 years, so they know a thing or two about keeping every generation happy.

Why they back the campaign:

“We are thrilled to back the #Ittasteslikelove campaign to normalise breastfeeding. Our staff understand only too well how daunting it can be for nursing mothers when out and about in public. We’d like to give you one less thing to worry about. If you dine or drink with us, we’ll give you one free smoothie.” – DiVino Group team

What they do and why you should support them:

Carpaccio: complete the gastronomic tour around Italy with a stop at this gem at iSQUARE mall, which brings trattoria style to TST. They have a very reasonable weekend brunch too.

DiVino Patio: whether it’s for work or pleasure, this place has the perfect seating, menu and drink list for every kind of meeting, be it intimate or formal. Plus, the location close to Wanchai’s waterfront provides a spacious al- fresco vibe. They’re big on family here, so come with the brood.

DiVino Wine Bar & Restaurant: this Wyndham Street stalwart keeps it simple for lunch but draws a crowd for dinner. The service is excellent.

Spasso: come for the divine Italian food, stay for the view. It’s vital to have more breastfeeding-friendly restaurants on the other side of the harbour, so we’re pleased to have such a super option in this neck of the woods.

Hemingway’s DB (Discovery Bay)

This waterside eatery is now fully vegan, offering a collection of classic favourites – from pizza to pies – but all dairy and meat free. The holiday-resort vibe, coupled with the relaxed seating and outdoor furniture, lends itself to leisurely lunches or sundowners. A great choice for everyone, but especially nursing mothers.

Why they back the campaign:

“Hemingway’s fully backs the #Ittasteslikelove campaign to normalise breastfeeding in society. Breastfeeding is the single most natural thing we as humans do, and the practice should never be shunned or frowned upon, only encouraged and the mothers supported!” – Gary Stokes, owner

Whisky & Words (Sheung Wan)

As the venue for Heather Lin’s Pump It Up event, where a group of women came together to be photographed breastfeeding and pumping (a homage to the pics of actress Rachel McAdams pumping milk while clad in diamonds and Versace), the team behind this dynamic bar have already shown their full support for breastfeeding mothers.

Elephant Grounds (Admiralty, Causeway Bay, Mid-Levels, Sha Tin, Wanchai)

A sanctuary for caffeine addicts and breakfast lovers, with outlets across the city.

Nhậu (Sheung Wan)

Inventive Vietnamese cuisine by chef (and proud father) Que Vinh Dang.

Pret A Manger

Setting the standard for international brands in Hong Kong, Pret is standing up for mothers across the city by supporting #Ittasteslikelove and showing once again that they are happy to give back to consumers.

Why they back the campaign:

“Breastfeeding is a very natural thing, which should not be discriminated in our society. Pret is very proud to be part of the @Ittasteslikelove campaign, and we fully support normalising breastfeeding in Hong Kong. We are pleased to offer a safe, secure, comfortable and supportive environment for nursing mothers to feel free to breastfeed their children.” – Yumi Li, Commercial Director (Asia)

What they do and why you should go:

What don’t they do? Breakfast, lunch, lattes and light bites, Pret has become Hong Kong’s de-facto canteen. Pret makes an effort to cater to vegan and vegetarian customers and offers both healthy and comfort food. It’s great for nursing mothers to know they are safe and cared for at their ubiquitous cafés. Plus, from 19 August 2019, Pret will offer free cookies with any food or drink purchase to nursing mothers who are dining in.

HABITŪ

This popular chain likes to present itself as a home away from home, so it makes sense that they support the idea of nursing mothers being made to feel welcome and comfortable.

Why they back the campaign:

“We believe all mothers should make themselves comfortable and nurse anytime, anywhere. #HabituLove is boundless – we make incredible things happen by becoming a breastfeeding-friendly neighbourhood café for every mum.” – HABITŪ team

What they do and why you should go:

These cafés offer coffees, cakes and chocolates, as well as excellent soups, pastas and sandwiches. Their spaces are light and airy, with room to relax, and they make an ideal place for a pit stop if mamas are running out of steam.

Education and Childcare

Maggie & Rose (Causeway Bay, Repulse Bay)

This family members’ club with beach and city properties has a vision to create a home away from home where both grown-ups and kids can make fun memories together. They support the #Ittastelikelove campaign across both venues.

Why they back the campaign:

“We support and cultivate a positive attitude towards breastfeeding in public places, including our Eat Café at Maggie & Rose City Club in Causeway Bay, and provide mothers with better community support for sustaining breastfeeding.” – Maggie & Rose team

Baumhaus (TST, Wanchai)

These wonderful centres for kids have been favourites of Hong Kong’s parents for years, featuring great play areas, coffee lounges and music and drama classes, and have always made nursing mothers feel welcome.

Why they back the campaign:

“Baumhaus supports the #Ittasteslikelove message to normalise breastfeeding. We can offer a butter or chocolate cookie to breastfeeding mums when they are in the cafés in our centres.” – Baumhaus team

Fashion & Lifestyle

Glow Spa

This inimitable spot in Central is fast becoming THE place for all your grooming needs from waxing and manicures to facials and blow-drys.

Why they back the campaign:

“We cater for nursing mothers as a matter of course, I regularly give up my office if mum needs privacy to pump or nurse, and if they are happy to nurse in public, our staff are mature and accommodating. Mums can nurse in the salon or in the nail room if they would like a quieter area, we speak about nursing mums and how to look after them at our team meetings. Mums are always welcome if they are in the city and need a place to go, they can feed or pump at Glow without hassle (or an appointment!)” – Sioban Guilfoyle, Founder, Glow Spa

What they do and why you should go:

A hub of all things beauty Glow is an absolutely gorgeous place to hang out as owner Sioban has ensured its something of a home from home with plush sofas and enticing snacks.  She’s backing the campaign so breastfeeding mothers – including those that pump – are welcome to swing by. But it’s worth highlighting that their whole philosophy is community-led so even if you are stuck in central with a pre-schooler that needs the bathroom, you can still rely on these guys to help you out.

Retykle 

Why they back the campaign: 

“We love what #Ittasteslikelove is doing to normalise breastfeeding and we enthusiastically support the campaign.  You can pop in for a comfortable relaxing feed any time you’re in the Wong Chuk Hang area and know that we stand with you to support feeding anywhere and any time.” – Sarah Garner, Founder, Retykle

What they do: Sarah Garner started RETYKLE to make buying and re-selling great quality baby, kid’s and maternity clothing as convenient and as stylish as buying new. Great for the environment, great for the wallet and great for your kids’ style.

Health & Wellness

OT & P

They have five general practice surgeries across Hong Kong, but the Central location also now includes Annerley, The Midwives Clinic. Firmly committed to supporting breastfeeding, they welcome all parents, whether clients or not, to stop by if they need a break to feed or care for little ones.

Why they back the campaign:

“At OT&P Family Clinic, we are proud to be a part of the #ittasteslikelove campaign and happy to provide a safe and comfortable space for mothers to breastfeed their children. If professional help is needed, we have that too and our midwives and lactation consultants can help you with classes, private consultations or home visits. Having a child can be a tough journey and we believe that our community here will ensure that new families can find the help and support that they need. If you are out and about in Central, pop in and say hi. Feed your baby and rest awhile.”

 

KAPUHALA

A training space where athletes, fitness enthusiasts, and most importantly people looking to make a lifestyle change, can train to achieve their fitness goals in a friendly, social and communal environment

Why they back the campaign:

Breastfeeding is great for mom and baby – research shows that it can reduce the risk of chronic disease for both. At Kapuhala, it is our mission to build a social space for everyone to get healthy – for this, we support any mothers who wish to workout and breastfeed so they can take care of themselves and their babies. Healthy moms, healthy bubs! – Crystal Lee, Owner, Kapuhala

What they do:

Everything from spin classes and Zumba to boot camp and boxing. Combining the neighbourhood gym vibe with global ambitions to make the world a better place, it offers more than the usual workout space.

 

 

Zig FitMama

An experienced personal trainer and fitness instructor, she’s worked in the UK and Hong Kong and last year qualified as a pre and postnatal coach in 2018

Why they back the campaign:

Breastfeeding is a daunting and often thankless task that has a lot of unique obstacles. Zig FitMama supports #ittasteslikelove because I wish to empower, support and create confidence in mothers to be their best selves unapologetically.” – Zikita Makant, Founder of Zig FitMama, and distributor of Milky Mumma Nutrition

What they do:

She aims to prepare and help women for labour, childbirth and the postpartum period with dedicated fitness advice, and as a distributor of lactation support foods – she understands the nutritional needs of the nursing body too.

Kristen Handford Personal Training

This DB-based personal trainer is also accredited for pre and postnatal workouts.

Why they back the campaign:

“Did you know that you are welcome to nurse your baby at ANY time while training with me? Being a mom is hard enough, so I want you to know that I support you – and I’ve got your back when it comes to boobing (or bottle-ing). Hold up.. Did she say burpees? Time to breastfeed!” – Kristen Handford, Founder, Kristen Handford Personal Training

What they do:

Kristen combines knowledge of nutrition, physiology, and peak performance to get results. Plus, having had her first baby she understands new mothers perfectly.

Treece Fitness & Fit Mums & Babes

Why they back the campaign:

“We support the campaign #ittasteslikelove to normalize breastfeeding. We believe Mothers should be able to nurse, however, wherever and whenever they need to. All our fitness classes are breastfeeding friendly and we will even encourage you to do it while you are exercising if that’s what suits you and your child!”

What they do: Husband and wife team Lina and Tyler run are all about family-friendly fitness. They aim to provide fitness classes that not only boost body and mind but also offer exercise options where babies are welcome, breastfeeding is welcome and everyone is supported to meet their health goals.

Mama, take the photo (or get a professional to do it)… Part I

By Rosalia Sempere Pico, #Ittasteslikelove Campaign Photographer

Owner: RSP Photography 

 

PHOTO CREDIT: GONZALO MORENO FOTOGRAPHIA

The first time I was asked to photograph a mother breastfeeding was two years ago when I was photographing my friend Ziggy with her son in my studio. Of course, I was more than happy to capture those images but to me, it felt like an unusual request.

I always thought breastfeeding was a private thing between mother and child.

I now realise the idea that breastfeeding should be a private, discreet act was only in my head because society has made mothers believe they must go into a room or cover up to do it.

I know now it’s not practical for mothers to nurse solely in the privacy of their own home, nor is it necessary for them to use a breastfeeding shawl.

There’s no reason to keep it hidden.

PHOTO CREDIT: GONZALO MORENO FOTOGRAPHIA

Soon after, I was shooting a newborn session and the baby needed a break to feed so

I asked the mother if she would like me to shoot a few snaps of her baby breastfeeding.

Her eyes lit up and she responded: “Yes I would love that”. 

As I photographed her I could tell that she had been too shy to ask, but was overjoyed that I had offered.

It became so clear to me then that breastfeeding is something that should be acknowledged and shared.

Breastfeeding is something the world should see. 

Nursing might be natural but it is not easy. It is a learned skill and at times there are challenges to overcome.

Why not celebrate the beauty, dedication and love that goes into mastering it?

PHOTO CREDIT: ROSALIA SEMPERE PICO, RSP PHOTOGRAPHY

Last year I became a mother for the first time and I realised even more so the importance of normalising breastfeeding.

I now photograph women breastfeeding all the time.

I’ve captured images of my other mum friends, I have set up a special day dedicated to shooting nursing mothers, and I always offer new mums who come into the studio for newborn shoots if they would like breastfeeding photographs.

PHOTO CREDIT: ROSALIA SEMPERE PICO, RSP PHOTOGRAPHY

It’s difficult to understand the unique experience of nursing until you go through it yourself. It is so much more than nourishment – it is comfort, reassurance, love, and security, and the bond is so special.

But breastfeeding, like so many seasons of motherhood, does not last forever

So it is really important to capture these sweet, special – but also fleeting – moments because they pass so quickly.

Whether it is on your phone at home or in a professional photography studio I urge parents to capture these moments while you can.

PHOTO CREDIT: ROSALIA SEMPERE PICO, RSP PHOTOGRAPHY

 

 

 

Rosalia Sempere Pico is the photographer behind the lens at RSP PHOTOGRAPHY in Hong Kong. She specializes in portraits for families, newborns, and maternity – both in-studio and on location.

Featured below are highlights of the imagery she has shot for the #Ittasteslikelove campaign to normalise breastfeeding.

 

The #Ittasteslikelove breastfeeding comebacks guide

Photo Credit: Rosalia Sempere Pico

RSP Photography

10 Perfect comebacks to silence breastfeeding critics

Family gatherings can be stressful at the best of times. The heady mix of multiple generations cooped up together in a confined space, a splash or ten of alcohol, and the frustrations of being in the constant company of people you love, but who you wouldn’t necessarily choose to be with 24-7, can mean tensions escalate.

For those breastfeeding,  especially if friends and family are either unsupportive or unused to the idea, there’s an extra layer of anxiety.

However confident you are in your parenting path, it’s likely your choices will come under scrutiny if you nurse around those with little knowledge or experience of it.

Sometimes people mean well, (and sometimes they really don’t). Sometimes people are misinformed (and sometimes they’re just downright ignorant). Sometimes people can’t help but just get all up in your business even if all you want to do is comfort your child.

The core point is this: If people say they support breastfeeding, there should be no ifs or buts, dictating where, when, or how they deem it acceptable.

Usually, the witty comebacks of all the things you wish you’d said, only come after a few hours of stewing… so we’ve put together a handy guide to help you beat the critics.

I support breastfeeding but… 

1. #Not in public

Be funny:  Yes, you probably have eye-strain from the effort of searching for a tiny slither of nipple to get upset over. But did you know you own an excellent device to avoid witnessing the horror of me comforting the little one? Eyelids.

Be factual: Breastfeeding is a natural and normal part of child-rearing. I understand it can make some people feel uncomfortable but that is because for too long we’ve been told that breasts are to sell and seduce rather than nourish. It’s time to change the conversation. If you’re upset by a mother meeting her child’s needs, the problem lies with you.

 

I support breastfeeding but… 

2. #Not when it’s attention-seeking

Be funny: You got me! I decided to go through the engorgement, sore nipples, and cluster-feeding because I realised nursing offered the perfect opportunity to flaunt my fantastic hooters to the world. The trials of pregnancy, labour, and learning to breastfeed – all a ruse to enable my flagrant exhibitionism.

Be factual: Good parents react to their child’s cues to see if verbally, or non-verbally, they are telling us they’re in need of sustenance, comfort or reassurance. Breastfeeding is an excellent tool to address one or all of these basic needs and avoid unnecessary distress. Whether I’m dressed in a ballgown or in my pyjamas, what I – and any other mother – is wearing while nursing, is irrelevant. The sole intention remains the same: helping my children.

 

I support breastfeeding but… 

3. #Use a cover

Be funny: Good idea. I’ve taken the liberty of bringing a number of spares so that we can all use them during dinner. I hate the way that Uncle Jack chews with his mouth open, and Aunty Peggy is a drooler. This way no one has to witness anything they feel is inappropriate. Limits the inane chat as well.

Be factual: Would you want to eat with a blanket over your head? Covers are fine if that’s how parents and kids choose to nurse, but a lot of children hate them and make more of a fuss than if they just fed normally.

Photo Credit: Eva Thieulle

Eva Portraits

 

I support breastfeeding but… 

4. #Not when they can walk

Be funny:  You’re right, arbitrary guidelines and imagined cut-off points seem ideal ways to parent.  In fact, seeing as baby is now nine months and has taken his first steps – it’s time to cut the apron strings – I’ll cuddling him altogether.

Be factual: Children hit developmental milestones at different times and learning a skill has no link to weaning. In fact, breastfeeding helps children cope with the emotional complexities of exploration and learning – it’s a safe place in what can be a scary world. If the World Health Organisations advocates breastfeeding exclusively to six months, and then in combination with food beyond two years – why would you deprive my child of something good for him simply because he’s learned a skill?

 

I support breastfeeding but… 

5. #Not when it means family can’t feed the baby 

Be funny:  You know what they say… the hand that rocks the cradle, rules the world. I don’t want anyone else to bond with her, or it’ll interfere with my masterplan for global domination.

Be factual:  I need to nurse on demand so my body works with baby’s to produce and supply the optimal amount for them.  Breastfeeding’s a learnt skill and something I need some time to get a handle on it all. There are lots of other ways you can bond: burping them, changing them, or holding them when I need to have a shower, a pee, or some hands-free time. But the best way to assist – would be to help look after me.

 

I support breastfeeding but… 

6. #I don’t want my kids seeing it

Be funny:  Your kids will see more boob walking past a Victoria Secret advert, on Youtube, or in a music video but yeah, glimpsing their cousin nurse is the real problem.

Be factual:  Breastfeeding has been hidden in the shadows for too long and is seen as an unusual act rather than the biological norm. Like any skill humans have to master, we need to see it in action first, and we need to be paying attention to the pitfalls in order to know how to avoid or cope with them. I think it’s a good thing that children grow up seeing this, without fuss, so they know the reality of it.

 

Photo Credit: Rosalia Sempere Pico

RSP Photography

 

I support breastfeeding but… 

7. #Not if they’re old enough to ask for it

Be funny: I assume you mean with words? So when my baby masters the skill of talking, and expands his vocabulary, you’re saying I should reward him by saying NO…. because it might offend you or someone equally ignorant?

Be factual: What you’re really saying then is don’t breastfeed, because babies know how to let caregivers know what they need very early one. Baby’s can sign for breastmilk from around six months, and many have specific pre-verbal babble that they assign to nursing soon after. Why is your cut-off point when they can use words?

 

I support breastfeeding but… 

8. #She should be on cow’s milk by now

Be funny: Absolutely, it is time for her to try what’s available from other mammals. Why restrict her to just cow’s milk though? We’ll see what cats, dogs and hamsters have to offer.

Be factual: Breast milk is the wondrous result of millions of years of evolutionary biology, a superfood uniquely tailored to each human child, and breasts are the original zero-waste packaging.  Why do you feel that milk tailored for baby cows would be better for my human child?

 

I support breastfeeding but… 

9. #Fed is best

Be funny: Why didn’t you say so? All this time I’ve been trying to eat a balanced diet for optimal health when actually from what you’re saying, it sounds like I could just have a daily binge on a bucket of KFC and a family-sized chocolate tin.

Be factual: Reductive phrases don’t help anyone but if you want to discuss it this way: Fed is the bare minimum. Informed is best. If you believe in a woman’s right to education, then it should be all education, including maternal and infant health. Once women have access to all the support and information they need, they can make the best choices.

Photo Credit: Claire Fraser

High Jump Photography

 

I support breastfeeding but… 

10. #It’s just for babies

Be funny: I plan on nursing until he’s at least safely in college.

Be factual: Breast milk loses none of its nutrition just because a child gets older. It simply compliments their diet until they are ready to wean. The natural age for humans to wean is, on average, anywhere between two and eight. In fact, experts and scientists say breastfeeding into early childhood contributes to your child’s nutrition, health, emotional and intellectual development, and also has benefits for mama too. This has been proven time and time again, by a wide range of scientists and sociologists. So no, it’s not just for babies.

 

I support breastfeeding but… 

#LET ME STOP YOU RIGHT THERE.

If your support of breastfeeding is conditional…

You don’t support breastfeeding